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February 29, 2008
I thought the belly pats were over!
I thought my days of annoying comments and belly pats were over once I had Caroline but apparently NOT!!!
Last night I was at a baby shower and was chatting it up with an older lady. I was one of the hostesses for the shower and she was commenting on how lovely everything was and said that we must have worked so hard. I thanked her and said I probably should have taken a nap that afternoon in order to be ready to put the shower on. She looked at my stomach and patted her own and said, "now, are you pregnant too." I replied, "no, I have 3 little girls at home and the youngest is 4 months." I was thinking this response would help to explain why I might need a nap before helping to host an evening shower and maybe that's why she asked if I was pregnant. That was not to be the case. So she reached over and patted my belly and said, "oh so you just have a little left over then."
(I'll wait a moment while that sinks in)
I'm sharing this hilarious tale not so I can get reassured that I don't look pregnant anymore, but more so we can be shocked and outraged together at the continued ignorance of people who don't know the appropriate things to say!!! I thought I had tired this issue out when I was pregnant and told story after story about the goofy things (goofy being a much nicer word than I want to use) people said to me. Little did I know it would continue on!!
One last thing, tummy touching was off limits for me when I was carrying a child- it certainly IS when I'm NOT!!! AH!
| By JennR | 1:28 PM
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I so wish I could have been there to see your face! What did you say??? "No, I'm just eating a lot of chocolate ." ;)
Posted by: Kristin at February 29, 2008 2:41 PM
the belly pats were the one thing about pregnancy i despised the most! and how rude that woman was! i don't know you, but am sure you look perfect!
Posted by: jill at February 29, 2008 5:52 PM
Oh. my. word. That's just downright wrong. Next time you need to train one of your kids to say something rude back to her like, "Mommy does that lady have a piggie dancing under skirt?" or my favorite uncomfortable and totally authentic comment Josiah will make to strange older ladies, "Mama, I don't like that lady looking at me!" It's totally rude for him to say this and I inform him of it, but man, it gets the crazy ones outta there fast!
Jen, I think you look fab-boo and you bounce back like gang-busters!!
Posted by: katiek at February 29, 2008 10:24 PM
Funny story. As I am obviously over weight, I have had a few people ask if I am expecting. I never comment, even to moms I know pretty well from church, until they say something first...just in case. One mom at church who is expecting now looked a little pregnant for a few months, but she has several children, so I didn't say a word until she mentioned something about it...and she was obviously showing!
After church one Sunday, a dear older lady came and hugged me and said that she wished we could spend more time together. Then she looked at me and said, "You look different. Have you lost weight?" I started to say that yes, I have lost over 50 lbs. when she said, "Oh, no, that's not it. You have your hair fixed different." So is you ask if someone has lost weight---just leave it at that. They'll feel like they look much better, even if they haven't lost any!
Posted by: martha at March 3, 2008 7:32 AM
Death... Just hideous death to all those who dare. You know I'm teling the truth
Posted by: Mary at March 5, 2008 2:05 AM
LOL! Ah, Mary we're like kindred spirits you and I!!!
Posted by: jenn at March 5, 2008 11:18 AM
Oh my GOSH! I am definitely shocked and outraged by that incredibly insensitive comment. Wow. Some people really open their mouths and actually allow the most stupid things to emerge. yikes.
so sorry you had to endure that experience.
Loved the pics of you guys.
Posted by: Patty at March 8, 2008 9:46 PM