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February 11, 2008
no apologies
Daddy's girls
So Saturday night the whole family ventured out for dinner and some shopping. It's rare lately that we'll take everyone out somewhere. I personally don't think restaurants are a place for toddlers and unless I can be sure my kids will be on their best behavior I don't like to risk ruining someone else's dinner. It was fun to take them out and watch them be so excited about their "special drinks" with straws. Its funny what will impress them still. I've learned that its more fun just to let them eat the rolls that are served early and let them munch on the peanuts (we went to Texas Roadhouse) than to be on them about waiting for their dinner. It's such a rare occasion that we eat out anyway I thought I'd let them go to town on whatever they wanted- this made it more fun for all.
The thing that struck me as odd while we were out as a family, was that Andy got apologized to at least twice. Our waiter upon arriving at our table and seeing the girls and then Caroline in her car seat looked over at Andy and said, "ah, sorry dude." Andy kind of laughed and we placed our order. When he walked away I was a little ticked about the stereo type that a dad would be more excited about having a son. Now I'll be the first to admit, since I cried in the ultra sound when we found out we were having our third girl, that we had hoped for a boy. But she's here and we ADORE her and I think its a bit rude for someone to apologize to my husband. Then at Home Depot that lady who was checking us out said to Andy, "three girls huh? I'm sorry." To which he responded- "Why? I like it!" That made me smile.
He thinks people are apologizing because of the weddings he has to pay for but I'm not sure. I didn't mind joking about it while I was pregnant but its another thing entirely to even suggest we're disappointed in not having a boy let alone having a stranger point it out.
I have a friend who is the youngest of three girls and she says as an adult when they are all out together they still get comments like that.
I'm going to think of some comments to have ready on hand when it happens again, doing my best to deliver them in a loving way. :)
I don't think- "Why are you apologizing to him, he did it!" is entirely appropriate, so I'll keep working on it.
| By JennR | 3:36 PM
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I think this calls for a good ol' fashioned "YOU GO GIRLFRIENDS!" Have to say, I've never seen Andy be anything but proud to be surrounded by his girls.
By the way, I'm going to try and come down soon, car explosion or not!
Posted by: valerie at February 11, 2008 5:24 PM
you go guys! andy is such a great dad!!! older kids are stupid....small kids rock! they don't say stupid things to adults trying to make them think they are cool. i'm just glad that our kids will NEVER do anything like that!
Posted by: erin at February 12, 2008 12:03 PM
I like the comeback comment!
Girls Rock!!
Love you guys,
Paba
Posted by: Paba at February 15, 2008 5:55 PM